I can’t believe I almost missed it!
And in the first year where we can participate with Eco out of the belly and rummaging through the apartment instead to boot.
If it hadn’t been for the alert over at AfterEllen, I might have missed the event altogether. Perhaps parents – no matter whether gay or straight or elsewhere on the spectrum – of intrepid six-months-olds simply tend to forget about things that are not listed under “apple porridge” and “no, no pulling on the cables/hair/glasses”?
Even though I have content for a dozen posts piled up, I don’t find the time to write them (is that normal, too?) – and much has been happening, except for news on the adoption front, where the responsible office worker cites being busy. Even too busy to make an appointment for the future with me, so that I might enquire just what papers we need to provide and how the process works. She wrote me back, rather rudely, that we would have had a lot of information last year already (pretty exactly a year ago, I asked about the procedures and she said “come back after the baby is born”. And then we had a discussion on naming rights, but that was the extent of it). So, what next?
Perhaps she will be busy until Merkel gets voted out of office in 5 years (I don’t see it happening next year yet) and we might finally have hope for some progress in LGBT politics that would include Patri not having to adopt her own son, especially as he is her own son by Spanish law already.
Really, if Germany would just FINALLY recognize our marriage, we could save the money and time of the adoption process and invest it in Eco instead.
In our day-to-day life, we don’t feel the difference much, since we barely go out (work-park-groceries-cuddling up at home), but this morning at the pediatrician’s office, the girl behind the admission desk asked “Who is the legal guardian of you two?”
And I had to say “I.”
And I hated it.
And the longer the adoption lady waits with calling us back to start the process, and the longer it takes to adjust LGBT laws to EU levels in Germany, the more we will have to wait until we can tell the girl at the admission desk: “We both are.” Until then, Patri can’t go to the doctor with Eco on her own.
Reflecting back on the past Blogging for LGBT Families Days, we are on one hand ridiculously happy to have made it this far – we have a healthy, happy son and the laws will simple have to close up to us.
On the other hand, there is still quite a bit of legal work to be done! Our thoughts today are particularly with those who are fighting the lawsuits for all of us, and with those fighting to form a family under difficult circumstances. Hang in there, you’ll make it!